Wednesday, September 30, 2015
Connoisseur
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~ Kahlil Gibran
Over the past couple years, I have had what seems to be far more than my share of loss, loss in the many forms it can take. Although some forms are obvious; death, the end of a relationship, losing a beloved pet, what may feel like loss doesn't always look like loss; new chapters in life which ended an era, transformations, children growing into themselves, change which required letting go of the old to make room for the new, and so on. Each loss, obvious or not, was in one way or another something dear to me for it is only that which mattered in its presence in my life that continues to matter in its absence. In this, I suppose, having so much I cared about is a very good 'problem' to have.
On a related note, in the course of this, many a tear has been shed, so many that I have become quite the connoisseur of tissues. Puffs plus with lotion, now that's the good stuff. ~ Mk Michaels
Friday, September 25, 2015
A tanka ~ the stories you tell to save face
Are you telling folks
I betrayed you? Is that it?
It is laughable.
Anyone who knows me, saw
me fall into you. All in.
~ Mk Michaels, 2015
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
12:48 AM
A tanka ~ the stories you tell to save face
2015-09-25T00:48:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Quitting the Game
I don't play games anymore,
so don't try to play them with me.
Monopoly, Risk, Trouble
do not appeal to me
in the least
so don't even bring them out,
their tattered boxes
duct tape holding the corners together,
for I won't play them with you.
~ Mk Michaels, 2015
Thursday, September 24, 2015
An Open Letter to Mean Girls
Dear Mean Girls,
Please don’t look around the room as if you don’t know who I am
addressing. I am addressing you. Yes, you. Don’t worry though; this is not an
attack. I know you are wired to expect
the worst of people and, therefore, when someone calls you out, you go on the
defensive initially and, in short order, on the attack. That’s your mode and it must be exhausting. I am so sorry for the bone-crunching
exhaustion you must live in.
Please don’t mistake me for a saint; I most definitely am not. Although I am coming to you from a place of compassion today I have certainly thought hateful things about you and, in all honesty, probably will again the next time I am attacked by one of your kind. I have hated you. I have despised you. I have wished you ill. All of these thoughts were perceived retaliation for your declaration of battles and wars against one of the kindest people I know. Me.
I also want to tell that life’s playing field is far more level and you could
possibly think. The non-mean girls have far more in common with you than you
think. No, we don’t mistreat others or
see danger and suspicion at every corner, but we, too, are afraid, insecure,
nervous, hurt, and damaged on some level. Those you treat unkindly or even cruelly
are far less of a threat than you might imagine. It takes courage to change
your course, but I encourage you to find a way to trust my words, give true kindness
a try, and see what happens. I promise the results won’t be perfect, but they
will surprise you all the same.
Mean girls, come to the light side. Rehabilitate yourself. Try kindheartedness. You'll be glad you did.
Wishing you all my best,
Mk Michaels, 2015
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
6:16 AM
An Open Letter to Mean Girls
2015-09-24T06:16:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Tuesday, September 22, 2015
Double Quote ~ Let it Go!
When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. ~ Catherine Ponder
Oh the power of resentment! Long ago, I spent a great deal of unproductive energy resenting others, whether for their words or actions. My thought was that by resenting them it somehow made them more wrong and me more right. In reality, holding onto these resentments barely affected anyone but me and, in this, it made my life much more difficult than it ever needed to be. I was living and breathing negativity and allowing the poison which accompanies it to seep deeply into my soul. In this state, it was not only difficult, if not impossible, to be truly happy and healthy in life, but I attracted other miserable and dysfunctional people into my world. If you’ve ever spent appreciable time with a group of this type people, you know it is highly unlikely anyone will emerge from the association happier and healthier. In fact, these type interactions tend to feed off themselves and become even bigger, uglier, and spread even more strife.
Over time, and with the help of some wonderful and positive friends and a bucket of courage, I have learned how to let go of resentments and become a far happier person. Am I Susie Pollyanna Sunshine each and every day? No. Am I happy more often than I am unhappy? Absolutely!
Granted, we all have experiences or circumstances which can bring about some degree of resentment. The trick, however, is not to dwell in it. The way out of it for me is not allowing it to accumulate or, worse yet, splashing it about so others may take notice and join in the resentment party you I am hosting. Trite as it sounds, I have to let it go. I do whatever I must to move through the resentment to the other side. I dissect it, figure out my part in contributing to the situation, make any apologies I should, forgive myself and whoever I believe has offended me, and I. Let. It. Go. In this, not only do I find myself more calm and better able to handle other perceived offenses which come my way, but I find fewer of them and I am better able to decline to participate in the next resentment soiree I encounter. ~ Mk Michaels
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
5:03 AM
Double Quote ~ Let it Go!
2015-09-22T05:03:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Tuesday, September 15, 2015
Double Quote ~ Walking Away
There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away from these people. The battle they're are fighting isn't with you, it's with themselves. ~ Unknown
Being someone who strives for continuous improvement to be a kinder person every day, and find ways to remove destructive conflicts from my life, I still am surprised by those who seek out conflict and prefer mean-spirited behavior over moving more gently through life. I used to think if I could be kind enough or gain true understanding of the demons which plague those who prefer to operate from a place of conflict, I could fix the situation. Although this approach can work in some circumstances, I have come to the conclusion this is not a unilateral truth. Some people carry such deep fear or anger in their bellies that they cannot comprehend or receive kindness for kindness' sake so being unkind and hurtful is the only way they can function.
Truth be told, I have never been much of a fighter, so instead of learning to fight well, my quest has been to learn to disagree respectfully and, in this, not subvert my important truths. More importantly though, I am learning how to simply walk away, turn the other cheek so to speak, but most importantly not engage in or respond to the pokes, prods, or passive-aggressive behavior I encounter from those who are battling within themselves. I will always be kind, but in setting healthy boundaries and calling a spade a spade, I have resigned from my prior role as a punching bag for the mean-spirited people of the world. ~ Mk Michaels
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
6:36 AM
Double Quote ~ Walking Away
2015-09-15T06:36:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Sunday, September 6, 2015
Double Quote ~ Two Facing Reality
It is funny how you're nice to my face. It's hilarious how you talk unkindly behind my back, and it is downright comical you think I'm unaware. ~ Unknown
Don't mistake my grace and kindness for me being a fool. ~ Mk Michaels
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
3:07 PM
Double Quote ~ Two Facing Reality
2015-09-06T15:07:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Thursday, September 3, 2015
Double Quote ~ Judging ~ Don't!
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define
yourself. ~ Wayne Dyer
Oh how harshly we can judge others at times! We judge behaviors, appearances, parenting, opinions,
decisions, possessions, and on and on and on.
We judge with such prejudice and are fully confident that we are ‘better’
than those we are judging. Here is what
I have learned though ~ virtually without exception, everything I have ever
judged has come full circle to bite me in the ass. When I was in my twenties and judged that
mother at the grocery with the child who threw a kicking, screaming tantrum in
the cereal aisle? Guess what? That was me in my thirties. The woman who was struggling to balance her career
and parenting ‘not doing a very good job of either’ who I judged in my
thirties? That was me in my forties. Full circle, I tell you, full circle. The reality is that as I was judging others,
I had no clue what the reality of their life, their day, or that moment was
like. For shame…
Because I am much more capable of seeing beyond what meets the
eye and giving others the benefit of the doubt at this stage in life, I am much
slower to judge. Instead of disparaging what
I view as a lapse in judgment at work resulting in a bad outcome, I attempt to
refocus the conversation and create a learning opportunity. Instead of judging someone who spoke unkindly
of me, I try to understand the underlying reasons for the bad behavior,
typically fear or envy, and return it with compassion, light, and love. Instead of staying mired down in the negative
of a situation and even stirring the pot further, I endeavor to rise above and
not add more to a bad situation. In staying
out of the judging fray, I believe I am not only doing less harm in the present
time, but also limiting what could come full circle and bite me in the
future. By choosing to limit my judgment
of others, I am also choosing kindness, compassion, a more gracious existence,
and defining myself as someone I can be proud to be in front of my children,
for they are always watching. ~ Mk Michaels
Posted by
Mk Michaels
at
9:03 AM
Double Quote ~ Judging ~ Don't!
2015-09-03T09:03:00-07:00
Mk Michaels
Comments
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)